Month: October 2009

Gay Pride and the God Delusion

Now you all know by now that I’m not a big fan of gay pride. I don’t like walking through the streets of a city announcing that I’m gay while I wear something ridiculous. It’s a day when we ask to be taken seriously and look like a really weird mob. And, it’s a day when we ask people to treat us as equals and go out of way to look different.

I know not everyone agrees with me, but that’s okay – we’re all entitled to our opinions.

I would be more comfortable if we called it something like mardi gras, and we took to the streets inviting anyone who wanted to have fun (or wear a boa in public). Pride has a political connotation, and I’m not sure I like that. If we wanted to organise a real political protest then lets do that – let’s demand seriously that we want something, seriously… like the 75 000 who recently marched in Washington as part of the National Equality March. That’s good stuff… me running through the streets with hotpants telling people I’m gay… not so fruitful. Pride was important. Now we need to re-invent it…. C’mon South Africa… let’s lead the way!

That all said, I did go to Zoo Lake afterwards and have a few drinks with the boys, and a few girls who looked like boys, and a few boys who looked like girls, and a few girls who used to be boys…. it was pretty festive. Over 15 000 gay people (and those that love them) in a park being festive. I loved that… and proof that our secret efforts to convert people to the evil ways of deviance are working. Next year we hope for 20 000, depends if we can get to first year university students before our enemies, the rugby teams, get to them first.


On a totally different note… I told you all that I’m reading The God Delusion. I’m just over halfway and so far I am finding it totally stimulating. I have not made a decision about his theories, but I have to say that its a lot more rational than I anticipated.

I must admit that I am attracted to his ideas. A recent reader left a rather scathing response to one of my posts and it was one of the first times that I really got angry and wanted to respond with swearwords and insults. Because that’s what I felt the reader’s response deserved. He/she took a lot of what I said and changed the context and rebuttled with scripture to mere portions of scripture that I had used – not reading it in full context. The reader felt that he/she “could not allow” me to deceive myself any longer. And once again, I was told that Jesus was there for me freely, if only I would accept his grace…. and change.

Please, new readers, if you read my blog please go back to my initial story of how I did all you asked… I am not prepared to step back on the wheel.

And while the majority of Christians have been supportive – I’ve found that it is really those who are prepared to not see the Bible as fundamentalist book, written by the hand of God, and totally relevant to today. I have believed in the Bible most of my life, but like I do not believe that the communion afer”becomes” the body of Christ, I do not believe that the Bible is perfect and completely relevant to today. Examples like verses missing (Mark 15:28) because they were lost in translation show that there is room for error. The reality is that even amongst Christians we are divided in our views becasue we are divided in what we really believe in scripture. What is symbolic, what is real? What is based on the times (like being stoned to death for being rude to your parents) and what is not? All I know is that we don’t all have it worked out. And those that do are probably desperately afraid of not being right so avoid the questions.

I could go on forever but I don’t want to get into massive theological debate… that’s not the point of my blog. It’s about a regular guy trying to live his life as best he can. And I’m thinking that my entire worldview is in the process of being reshaped… maybe you want to add your thoughts to help me on my way…


Remember me?

So I know I’ve been a complete stranger. Do you know how many times I’ve logged onto the blog and even clicked “New Post” and not gone any further? Work really has a horrible way of interfering with my online activities. You know, really…

Annnnnyyyywaaaayyy… I’m here, I’m back and have lots to tell…

I turned closer to 40 without huge fanfare, and without my butt dropping to the floor. I did think that this was they year my anatomy would give in to it’s war with gravity, and waited for the plunge at the stroke of midnight. All is well and my butt is as perky as ever… Ahem…

It’s also the first year that I never woke up to presents. Seriously. In my 37 years of life I have awoken to each birthday with the gentle sound of people singing happy birthday off-key. But this year i awoke to dogs demanding food and a desperate need to check my, hopefully, non-sagging ass.

Not that I minded. FJ did offer to wake me up to sing to me with presents before he headed to work, but I think if he had attempted to at 3am i would have probably thrown my fancy new laptop bag back at him… Yes, i got a fancy laptop bag with inner padding (no airbags though…). I’ve always been scared of laptop bags. Little black ones that you get with your ‘puter make you look like a travelling salesman and anything too outrageous makes you look like you’re selling make-up, or carrying it to your next drag show. Man bags are vile, and I have yet to see one I like so was quite concerned about carrying around my new bag.

I once got asked out on a date by a guy I quite fancied . he was tall, dark and intelligent, and when he asked if we could go for dinner I was totally keen. We decided to go to Primi Piatti (I should’ve known then) and I arrived a bit earlier than he did. Now, I’m always slightly late, so he was really late (once again, I should’ve known then). Annnnnnyyyywaaaay, in he pranced with a little blue satchel thing under his arm. It was the male version of a clutch and i immediately wanted to run for the hills. He waved and I was forced to acknowledge his existence as I felt the entire restaurant spill their drinks and turn to look at the guy who was with the guy with the man bag. Apparently he was diabetic and needed the manbag to live, but I just couldn’t be near it.

Does that make me shallow?

I would far rather carry my syringes and anti-hypoglycemic potions in my hand than carry them in a manbag. In fact, if i meet you, shaking my hand is usually a problem as I have cellphones, wallets, keys and pepper spray in my paws making formalities almost impossible.

I know, I know. I should use pockets, but i always think I’m drawing a little too much attention to my, um, package… and we wouldn’t want that. Good upstanding lad with a perky butt that i am.

Back to the birthday…

So from the list, i have to say my group of friends and family did well! I did get the Queen’s greatest hits (thank you Gina and Trent), but I never got Muse… if you would like my postal address, please let me know…

I got tons of books. In fact, I’m not sure I’ll ever leave the house again… Here are the list of books I have lined up to read in the next few months:

  • The Lost Symbol by Dan Brown (believe it’s crap though)
  • City of Thieves by David Benioff
  • The 30th Candle by Angela Makholwa
  • Home by Marilynn Robinson
  • The Children’s Book by A.S. Byatt
  • A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle
  • The Jesus I Never Knew by Phil Yancey
  • The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo by Stieg Larsson
  • The Girl Who Played With Fire by Stieg Larsson
  • The Girl Who Kicked the Hornet’s Nest by Stieg Larsson
  • The Host by Stephenie Meyer
  • The Maeve Binchy Writer’s Club

Quite a list! Oh, and I have the audiobook of The God Delusions (which is really blowing my mind and raising huge questions in my life… but that’s all for another post)…

Okay, that’s all for now. Will try catch up with other blogs now.